After spending time with a friend of mine who has a little boy a month older than Ty, I am convinced that we have got to attempt to start setting some limits with the little one. It becomes more and more apparent to me that he is very much aware of what he is doing and is often testing to me to see just how far he can go. At 11 months, he is capable of much more than I could ever imagine. He is so smart and can climb and swing and jump like no bodies business. However, he refuses to walk. He just won’t do it. And often we are trying to help or teach him, he screams bloody murder and cries real huge tears until we hold him.
I love him so much and it is so hard to resist him because he is absolutely beautiful. How can I look at him in the eyes as they fill up with tears, and not hold him when I know that’s all he wants? Am I doing him a disservice?
Ty is so happy. He is so full of life and laughter. There are very few moments throughout the day when he isn’t smiling and laughing. Usually if he isn’t smiling he is putting something in his mouth that he shouldn’t, or crying because he wants to be held. Even when he is playing by himself he giggles.
Wyatt, my friend heather’s baby, is very calm and reserved. It takes a large amount of effort to get a laugh or a smile out of him. On the other hand, he is also considerably more independent and less mischievous, and when he does cry it isn’t a blood curdling shrill of a cry.
Which is better? A child that is full of laughter, but screams and cries to be held often on the drop of a hat? Or a child that is reserved, respectful, and appropriate and only cries to express that he is hungry,sleepy, or my child knocked him over…. again.
Perhaps it is just personality and I am worrying too much over this. I just really would like to do the right thing by my son. Right now as I type this he is asleep on me in his ring sling. He will almost never take a nap by himself, but will sleep for hours if someone is with him, and he does sleep through the night. I would like for him to have some level of independence, but I must admit, it is very nice to feel needed.
Advice from experienced mommies would be much appreciated.